Thursday, September 13, 2012

A Woman Named Jocelyn

My name is Dan. And I support Endometrial Cancer Awareness.
Why – you might ask – would a guy like me advocate something which he is totally and physiologically exempt from? Yes, Endometrial Cancer is a silent killer of women, and I could support other causes; however, this issue is particularly close to my heart and let me tell you why.

It’s about a woman named Jocelyn.

She was a firecracker, a thunderbolt of sorts. It’s impossible not to notice Jocelyn even if you throw her amid a cacophony of jungle animals. She never failed to light up any dull and dreary room with her burst of energy. Jolly, funny, witty, and happy are among the many things people would often use to describe Jocelyn.  She was a painter of smiles on everyone’s faces and a refreshing ray of warm sunlight on a cold, gloomy day. She once said that perhaps her only mission in this world was to cheer up those who were down. But to those who loved her, she was much more.

photo not author's own
She was only 4’9” (or 5’1” depending on who’s asking), but she could effortlessly tower anyone twice her size with the enormity of her personality. Jocelyn was a brave little warrior against life’s innumerable and oftentimes extravagant tribulations. With nothing but a chill pill and a purple sword in tow, she was always ready to vanquish many of life’s fire-breathing dragons, especially the one that’s called negativity. She’s arguably one of the most positive people anyone could ever meet. Good vibes always and smile, she would always say. Funny, little girl.

A few days after she turned 53, she was diagnosed with cancer. Endometrial Carcinoma. Stage 4. A little over a year after – on June 13, 2011 – she died peacefully in her home in Dipolog City.

She was my mother.


photo not author's own
The first time I learned about the diagnosis, my reaction wasn’t anywhere near the histrionics we see in the movies – no explosive theatrics, no hair-tearing, no crazy wailing of cinematic proportion. It was my Aunt Viola, my mom’s sister, who broke the news. And although I had the immediate reaction of most people, it was coupled with a scratch on the head, oddly. “Endo-what? H-how? Wh-? Huh?” I thought it was just a silly joke, a heartless prank and then I’d be told that it’s April Fools! But no.Like most people I spoke with, I didn’t have the faintest idea what Endometrial Carcinoma was. I knew what carcinogens are. Mom would always warn me about the dangers of eating burnt barbeque. They’re carcinogenic and carcinogens could kill you y’know, she would always say. But what about Endometrium? What is that? Too technical if you take it at face value; it sounded like something on the Periodic Table of Elements.

But seriously, what is that?

Endometrial Cancer was as exotic to me as the Martian volcanoes. It was as though a green blinking steamy rock feel from godknowswhere and hit me right smack on my massive forehead. “What is that … thing!?” Before we progress, though, for the benefit of everyone reading this blog (yeah, the three of you), allow me to provide you with some quick facts regarding this green blinking alien thing called Endometrial Cancer.

  • Cancer of the lining of the uterus, the endometrium, is the most common gynecologic cancer and ranks seventh among causes of female cancer deaths.
  • The average woman who develops uterine cancer is in her early 60s.
  • A small number of uterine cancers (three percent) are sarcomas, a type of cancer that grows in the muscular and connective tissue elements of the uterus.

I am male. I do not have a uterus and never will I have any uterine linings with which cancerous cells could latch onto while it nurtures itself into becoming a life-draining monstrosity. I have an appendage, thank you very much. And it is physically impossible, scientifically implausible, and logically improbable that I will ever get Endometrial Cancer. So what gives?

photo not author's own
The epiphany came to me one day while my sister and I were having a rather animated conversation about our plans for Mom’s first death anniversary. While my sister was having a mental vomit on the exciting plans that she hoped to carry on June 13th, it suddenly occurred to me. Looking at my sister, I realized that she’s the only girl standing out of the five immediate family members that I originally have. And I was sure as hell that I don’t want to lose her or anyone to Endometrial Cancer – ever again.

Yes, I am a guy. And I have other roles that I actively take part in this life. I am a brother to an amazing sister. I am a nephew to my supportive aunts. I am a Kuya to my loving female cousins. I am a grandson to a doting grandma. I am a boyfriend to a fantastic girlfriend. And on top of that, I have a throng of wonderful female friends and colleagues. I know in my heart that I don’t want to lose any of them to Endometrial Cancer.

Whenever I go to my mom to rant, whine, grumble, and complain about any issue imaginable – whether it be about work or school or my siblings or even a little mud on the side of my shoe – she would always rattle off a litany of things to say about the topic at hand. But almost always, she would end it with a provocative question – “So … what can YOU do about it?”

How about you? What can YOU do about Endometrial Cancer?

My name is Dan. And I support Endometrial Cancer Awareness.
 
endometrial cancer 

For Jocelyn “Joji” Adriatico Aleta, the woman who taught me how to live and love and is now my shining star. I love you, Ma. 
 
 
 
Disclaimer:
Except for the picture of my Mom,
the other photos on this post are not the author’s own.
 
Endometrial Cancer Support Philippines

Information is our best defense.
Let's help protect ourselves and those around us against
Endometrial Cancer / Uterine Cancer / Womb Cancer.
Check these links to know more about the disease.
Let us spread the word.

19 people gave a damn:

Kaz said...

As an endometrial cancer survivor, I want to thank you for writing this blog. Far too often, people forget that cancer affects everyone in a family, not just the person with the diagnosis.
Your Mother sounds like an amazing woman.
I myself am involved with raising awareness of this type of cancer - the more of us that speak out, the louder our voices will become.
xx

Margaret MacGillivray said...

I too survived womb cancer; my diagnosis affected friends and family around the world and now I'm quite passionately committed to spreading the word about endometrial cancer because I'd like to do my bit to help protect the friends and family around me. Levels of awareness are improving but I feel there's a long way to go.

I am sorry for your loss and would also like to thank you for writing about this very personal issue.

Unknown said...

@Kaz:

I am very happy to know that you have survived such distressing event, Kaz. It's true, when someone in the family has cancer, all of its members suffer too. My Mom was an amazing woman, and she fought a very good fight. I am proud of her and of my family. Raising awareness about endometrial cancer has been our advocacy since Mom passed on. Thank you for much.

@Margaret MacGillivra:

Hi Margaret! I am happy that you've also triumphantly came out of that illness. Let's do whatever way we can to protect those around us. My Mom was the first cancer patient in the family. And it is my fervent hope that she be the last.

Both your messages warmed my heart. Let's spread the word. Thank you.

DAN

Gesep P. said...

Nice Writing.

Unknown said...

Very well written Dan! This too, is so personal to me because your Mom Jocelyn was a very dear friend. She was always the life of the party! Her energy was so contagious… a great woman of substance! I think of her every now and then. Joji, I know that you are up there. You deserve to be truly happy because you made a lot of people very happy down here. You are greatly missed!

Unknown said...

@Gesep:

Thanks for dropping by.

@Ana Marie:

Thank you, Tita. Thank you for the nice words and for the love and friendship that you have afforded Mom when she was still with us. With the kind of woman that she was, her memories will surely live on -- within us and within the people that she had touched through the course of her full albeit short life. It's just weird that we're speaking of her in the past tense, but this is life. She's gone way before us but I know someday somehow we will all be reunited. I rest in the solace that she is now with the Lord. We may shed a few tears from time to time, but deep in our hearts we know that she is in a much much better place. And that's enough reason to rejoice -- her rebirth! Thank you again, Tita. :)

GOwin said...

Dear Dan,

I am sorry to hear your loss

Today my mother was diagnosed with endometrial cancer. As I write this, she's still being prepared for more tests to determine its extent.

Right now, I'm trying to learn more about this disease and see what options are available for us to improve our chances of fighting this off.

Although I'm a bundle of nerves right now, thank you very much for sharing and reminding us about what's more important right now: support and understanding for her, and acknowledging her selfless love for us.

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